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I've been married for only two years, I'm 34 years old and my wife is 31. We have been together for a total of 5 years. Up untill eight months ago everything was just normal compassionate sex, caring thoughts etc., just plain enjoying our life. She then started to find fault with relationship when there was nothing wrong. She would say "things just don't seem right" and she wouldn't explain any further.
I thought she was just going through a phase so I let it slide, but about two months ago I noticed she was receiving lots of text messages from "work". At the same time I also noticed that our cell phone bill had sky-rocketed and when I examined the bill closer, I discovered that she was texting 600-800 times a month and all to the same "work" person.
The next time she received one at night I looked at the phone and the text message said "Alright". I then looked at what she sent in her text and it said "Enjoy bowling, think about me a little". Another message said "make sure to delete all your messages". So I asked her directly what was going on and if she was having an affair (without showing her the phone of course). I said "Is there anything going on between you and this person?". She said "No, why do you ask?", to which I replied, "Are you sure, no flirting, nothing at all?". Well of course she denied anything was going on so I showed her the phone and her mouth quite literally dropped.
From that day on there were many more lies, so I left her and she hasn't made any attempt to get me back into her life. After all the horrible words and the lack of trust she decided to ask for a divorce. As it happens we both work at the same place and one night I ended up having a "fling" with someone else from the same company. I felt bad about what I had done so I was completely honest with her about it, her only response was "Did you use a rubber?" I had at least expected her to be a little bit upset, but it would seem she has already moved on and no longer cares.
Since all of this has happened I just can't eat. I have gone from 195lbs to 165lbs in just two months. I love her more than I have ever loved any person, but at the same time have never been lied to way that she has lied to me. I've tried to stay positive about who I am, but I can't help wondering if anything was going on then and is she doing anything now. I'm very broken hearted and I wish the pain would just go away and let me get on with my life. Can anyone help?
By: Broken hearted
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Thats what we need ,a bit of humour, made me smile anyway.
More parodies please on the spell casting krap that gets posted.
i remember dating this girl for 4 years along time ago and she was cheating on me. we split 6 to 7 years ago, just heard wind that her husband cheated on her and left her with 2 kids for another woman.
You must have really loved her and she betrayed you. It's obvious she doesn't care for you.
My husband did the same thing to me. I had a bit of a breakdown as a result. Try and pull yourself together and forget about women for a while and find something that interest you.
Thanks for posting that. It's really good to exhale your feelings and not just to keep it. The same (ex doesn' want me back) just happened to me and I feel terrible. There're some cells in my brain missing to understand why she doesn't want me anymore. It's so unlogical for me and everything felt different in my head before.
So, I decided to leave the feeling that I have towards her, the way it is. It's not bad, nor good, cause it's just the way it is. This person is my number one and why should I try to be busy and spend time with somebody else. One day, it all comes back to you and you will be just alone with the problem, so don't run away now.
How many people in your lifetime will you donate your faith (it's a present you make)?Were you designed to give your trust to random people, every date, any of all relationships? The answer is (in my opinion), yes and no. If you're looking for a deeper understanding of faith (that I call LOVE), then you should consider that there're not too many people in your life who will receive your faith completely. Once you start thinking like that, you'll see that you don't have to push away the person that treated you like ...., cause this person is in your heart. It's like your child. If your son or daughter treat like ...., will you replace them? No, you can't, and so is a partner for you (in my opinion). How do you want to love somebody endlessly when you make it a condition that this person has to love you the same way? That is a condition and it's very demanding. All you need (again, in my opinion), is to believe!!!!.......
..........Don't listen to the words that say that there're many other beautiful partners outside and you just have to go and find them. Your feelings might be overexaggerated but there're still your feelings. Stick with it and take responsibility for them. It might be weird and peculiar, but that's the truth right now. If you put something on top of it, the problem will always remain the same and be just subconscious. Instead of thinking 'now I have to meet new people or travel or do something to forget about the person', just enjoy the positive feelings about your ex, write them down. Imagine yourself next to her and write down your most romantic dream. If it's your dream, make it true. Remember that you can communicate with people without speaking to them. Tell her that you love her (again, without speaking), enjoy that love and try to hug her and give her more love and more affection. If your words are true and you're convinced, you'll do the right thing. The results will follow believe me. It's all about faith. You must believe in the love between the two of you. Unconditionally!! That's why you are on earth, to love somebody. If you still love her, make use of the love and let it out. Not by talking or writing to her but by imagening her next to you. What you want will arrive, it just may take longer than your actual patience is trying to tell you.Learn from your patience, make mistakes, stand up, but please, face it!!
Anon