Child support arrears demand unreasonable

I suppose I fell into the age old trap of promising to provide my two children with the ‘treats’ for want of a better word and did not set up a formal agreement with my ex wife.

Over the years I have provided them with holidays either with me or with their mother, computers, an allowance, clothing (including school clothing).  I have helped out with the school trips, given money to my ex wife at Christmas to help her and I suppose have spoilt my children at Christmas and birthdays.

I have worked hard, paid my taxes and always been on the end of the phone to sort problems.  I have seen them pretty regularly up until the last few years as they are now in their late teens and have other priorities.

Their mother on the other hand has sat on her backside for 15 years and made no attempt to work!  She has claimed all the benefits going and sat back and allowed me to make the necessary payments for my children’s needs.  I can just hear her now saying “ask your Dad he is loaded…”

letterbox - arrears demand from the CSA?I returned from holiday at Christmas to find a demand from the CSA for

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  1. collar 31/10/2014 / 6:37 pm

    @What Bull – What are you, some sort of Country and western singer?
    Daft cow.

  2. what bull 30/10/2014 / 5:49 pm

    Smiler again – Clearly from your comments you do not work. I am a single mother and I work hard to give my children a good life and to set an example. Sitting on your backside I would say is pretty correct when your kids are 15 years old. They do not require 24/7 care. I find those who sponge off others a disgrace and have pride in myself. What a joke some people are. Teaching kids the same message?? Not a good example. Too many sponging mothers!! I get nowt off the ex, but you know what – I will manage. Because I have ME!!

  3. What bull 30/10/2014 / 5:43 pm

    Smiler – I think you will find it is possible to work and bring up children!! Depends where you want to get in life.

  4. Mal 25/03/2014 / 7:27 pm

    I have two children a lad who is 13 and a girl who is 11 both with different mothers i have an agreement in place with my girls mother that i pay £25 every wk which is done through the bank and we are on good terms..however my lads mum is a disgrace she wont get off her backside to open an a bank account so i can do the same wiv her so for years now i have bought my lad anythin he ever needed because if the money went to his mother it would just go on booze and fags..i recently recieved a letter from the csa saying a deduction of earnings was being enfofced which means £77 is going to come out of my wages every week this is before i pay my girls mum her £25 so that means i am paying £102 every wk which after i pay my rent and bills is leaving me with nothing i work hard with no reward and not sure where to turn next

  5. disgusted 29/12/2013 / 1:35 am

    oh boo hoo hoo, shut up and meet your responsibilities. £23000 csa in arrears?? shame on you.

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